Treat peopleas if they were what they ought to be and you help them to become what theyare capable of being.

Talk back to your internal critic. Train yourself to recognize and write downcritical thoughts as they go through your mind. Learn why these thoughts areuntrue and practice talking and writing back to them.

Itis all right if you talk to yourself. It is all right if you answer yourself.But when you start disagreeing with the answers, you've got a problem.

Don't wrestlea pig in a mud hole. You both get all dirty, and the pig enjoys it.

Diseases are Tax on the pleasure.

Neversay more than is necessary.

Within-groupconflict is always personal and emotional even if it begins with impersonalissues.

Prejudice is a disease characterised by hardening of categories.

Allmarried couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art ofmaking love. Good battle is objective and honest never vicious or cruel. Goodbattle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle ofequal partnership.

It iswith our brothers and sisters that we learn to love, share, negotiate, startand end fights, hurt others, and save face. The basis of healthy (orunhealthy) connections in adulthood is cast during childhood.

The best prophet is common sense, our native wit.

Thereare no secrets. There is no mystery. There is only common sense.