Ourlives are not dependent on whether or not we have conflict. It is what we dowith conflict that makes the difference.

Ifthere is any great secret of success in life, it lies in the ability to putyourself in the other person’s place and to see things from his point of view as well as your own.

Negotiatingin the classic diplomatic sense assumes parties are more anxious to agreethan to disagree.

Talkingcomes by nature, silence by wisdom.

Don'tthrow out the baby with the bath water.

Agrievance is most poignant when almost redressed.

The larger the island of knowledge, the longer the shoreline of wonder.

When makinga decision of minor importance, I have always found it advantageous toconsider all the pros and cons. In vital matters, however, such as the choiceof a mate or a profession, the decision should come from the unconscious,from somewhere within ou

Power takes as ingratitude the writhing of its victims.

Thecourts of this country should not be the places where resolution of disputesbegins. They should be the places where the disputes end after alternativemethods of resolving disputes have been considered and tried.

No onecan persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that canonly be opened from the inside. We cannot open the gate of another, either byargument or emotional appeal.

I haveoften regretted my speech, never my silence.