People whoare too concerned with how well they are doing will be less successful andfeel less competent than those who focus on the task itself... Somepsychologists call it a conflict between egoorientation, or between extrinsicand intrinsic motivation...
I have learned through bitter experience the one supremelesson to conserve my anger, and as heat conserved is transmitted intoenergy, even so our anger controlled can be transmitted into a power that canmove the world.
Communicationis a skill that you can learn. It's like riding a bicycle or typing. Ifyou're willing to work at it, you can rapidly improve the quality of everypart of your life.
All marriedcouples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of makinglove. Good battle is objective and honest never vicious or cruel. Good battleis healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equalpartnership.
Themost dramatic conflicts are perhaps, those that take place not between menbut between a man and himselfwhere the arena of conflict is a solitary mind.