No onecan persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that canonly be opened from the inside. We cannot open the gate of another, either byargument or emotional appeal.
In oneof our concert grand pianos, 243 taut strings exert a pull of 40,000 poundson an iron frame. It is proof that out of great tension may come greatharmony.
It iswith our brothers and sisters that we learn to love, share, negotiate, startand end fights, hurt others, and save face. The basis of healthy (orunhealthy) connections in adulthood is cast during childhood.
Allmarried couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art ofmaking love. Good battle is objective and honest never vicious or cruel. Goodbattle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle ofequal partnership.