It ishard to change our point of view in a conflict. Most often, it is because weare not nearly as interested in resolving the conflict and possibly creatinga new ‘pearl’ as we are in being right.
Insteadof suppressing conflicts, specific channels could be created to make thisconflict explicit, and specific methods could be set up by which the conflictis resolved.
It iswith our brothers and sisters that we learn to love, share, negotiate, startand end fights, hurt others, and save face. The basis of healthy (orunhealthy) connections in adulthood is cast during childhood.
There are questions of real power and then there arequestions of phony authority. You have to break through the phony authorityto begin to fight the real questions of power.