No onecan persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that canonly be opened from the inside. We cannot open the gate of another, either byargument or emotional appeal.
Thecourts of this country should not be the places where resolution of disputesbegins. They should be the places where the disputes end after alternativemethods of resolving disputes have been considered and tried.
In aconflict, being willing to change allows you to move from a point of view toa viewing point a higher, moreexpansive place, from which you can see both sides.