All marriedcouples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of makinglove. Good battle is objective and honest never vicious or cruel. Good battleis healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equalpartnership.
Resolvingconflict is rarely about who is right. It is about acknowledgment andappreciation of differences. One ofthe best ways to persuade others is with your ears by listening to them.
Reasonand emotion are not antagonists. What seems like a struggle between twoopposing ideas or values, one of which, automatic and unconscious, manifestsitself in the form of a feeling.
The mostintense conflicts, if overcome, leave behind a sense of security and calmthat is not easily disturbed. It is just these intense conflicts and theirconflagration which are needed to produce valuable and lasting results.