Washing one's hands of the conflict between the powerfuland the powerless means to side with the powerful, not to be neutral.

No one wouldtalk much in society; if he knew how often he misunderstands others.

He who gainsa victory over other men is strong; but he who gains a victory over himselfis all powerful.

Whenthere is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you.

Differentfields, different grasshoppers; different seas, different fish.

Suspicion begets suspicion.

Humoris the affectionate communication of insight.

True,Heaven prohibits certain pleasures; but one can generally negotiate acompromise.

A shipin harbor is safe, but that is not what ships arebuilt for.

The exercise of power is determined by thousands ofinteractions between the world of the powerful and that of the powerless, allthe more so because these worlds are never divided by a sharp line: everyonehas a small part of himself in both.

Keepthings informal. Talking is the natural way to do business. Writing is greatfor keeping records and putting down details, but talk generates ideas. Greatthings come from our luncheon meetings which consist of a sandwich, a cup ofsoup, and a good idea

Resolvingconflict is rarely about who is right. It is about acknowledgment andappreciation of differences.