People whoare too concerned with how well they are doing will be less successful andfeel less competent than those who focus on the task itself... Somepsychologists call it a conflict between egoorientation, or between extrinsicand intrinsic motivation...

It iswith our brothers and sisters that we learn to love, share, negotiate, startand end fights, hurt others, and save face. The basis of healthy (orunhealthy) connections in adulthood is cast during childhood.

It isgreed to do all the talking but not to want to listen at all.

Whenconflict becomes a win-lose contest in our minds, we immediately try to win.

Lower your voice and strengthen your argument.

You andyour spouse should consider the arguments you have, not as calamities in thehistory of your child’sdevelopment, but as opportunities for learning. Take the opportunity to teachyour children the art ofand value in negotiation, and to demonstrate you

God made time, but man made haste.

The exercise of power is determined by thousands ofinteractions between the world of the powerful and that of the powerless, allthe more so because these worlds are never divided by a sharp line: everyonehas a small part of himself in both.

We mustbe part of the general staff at the inception, rather than the ambulancedrivers at the bitter end.

Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.

The repetition in nature may not be a mere recurrence. It may e a theatrical "encore"

Difficultiesare meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong byconflict.