There is something monstrous in commands couched in invented and unfamiliar language, an alien master is the worst of all. The language of the law must not be foreign to the ears of those who are to obey it.
Usenon-verbal communication to SOFTEN the hard-line position of others: S =Smile, O = Open, Posture, F = Forward Lean, T = Touch, E = Eye Contact, N =Nod.
Talk back to your internal critic. Train yourself to recognize and write downcritical thoughts as they go through your mind. Learn why these thoughts areuntrue and practice talking and writing back to them.