It iswith our brothers and sisters that we learn to love, share, negotiate, startand end fights, hurt others, and save face. The basis of healthy (orunhealthy) connections in adulthood is cast during childhood.
If you are distressed by anything external, the pain isnot due to the thing itself but to your own estimate of it; and this you havethe power to revoke at any moment.
Girls .. . were allowed to play in the house . . . and boys were sent outdoors. . .Boys ran around in the yard with toy guns going kksshh-kksshh,fighting wars for made-up reasons and arguing about whowas dead, while girls stayed inside and played with dol
All marriedcouples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of makinglove. Good battle is objective and honest never vicious or cruel. Good battleis healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equalpartnership.
In aconflict, being willing to change allows you to move from a point of view toa viewing point a higher, moreexpansive place, from which you can see both sides.