Themost intense conflicts, if overcome, leave behind a sense of security andcalm that is not easily disturbed. It is just these intense conflicts andtheir conflagration which are needed to produce valuable and lasting results.
Duringthe Depression, or back when we were fighting Hitler, people didn't have timeto sue a company if the coffee was too hot. There were urgent, pressingproblems. If you think you have it tough, read history books.
People whoare too concerned with how well they are doing will be less successful andfeel less competent than those who focus on the task itself... Somepsychologists call it a conflict between egoorientation, or between extrinsicand intrinsic motivation...