Peoplewho are too concerned with how well they are doing will be less successfuland feel less competent than those who focus on the task itself... Somepsychologists call it a conflict between egoorientation,or between extrinsic and intrinsic motivation…
The ear tends to be lazy, craves the familiar and is shocked by the unexpected; the eye, on the other hand, tends to be impatient, craves the novel and is bored by repetition.
A goodmanager doesn't try to eliminate conflict; he tries to keep it from wastingthe energies of his people. If you're the boss and your people fight youopenly when they think that you are wrong that's healthy.
Thetorment of human frustration, whatever its immediate cause,is the knowledge that the self is in prison, its vital force and ‘mangledmind’ leaking away in lonely, wasteful self-conflict.
Allmarried couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art ofmaking love. Good battle is objective and honest never vicious or cruel. Goodbattle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle ofequal partnership.