Whenyou plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. Youlook for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water,or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with ourfriends or our family,

No onecan persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that canonly be opened from the inside. We cannot open the gate of another, either byargument or emotional appeal.

Conflictinvolves incompatible behaviors rather than competitive goals.

The more faithfully you listen to the voice withhin you, the batter you will hear what is sounding outside.And only he who listens can speak.

Honesty is like an icicle; if once it melts that is theend of it.

Whenelephants fight, it is the grass who suffers.

Expreince never helps us avoid doing something foolish; it merely prevents us from enjoying it.

A goodpreparation takes longer than the delivery.

The real great man is the man who makes every man feel great.

Kind wordscan be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.

There isnothing more likely to start disagreement among people or countries than anagreement.

Talkingjaw-jaw is always better than war-war.