Onemight as well try to ride two horses moving in different directions, as totry to maintain in equal force two opposing or contradictory sets of desires.
Wheneveryou're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make thedifference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factoris attitude.
Believing that soom good can be derived from every event is a better preposition than that everything happens for the best, which is assuredly does not.